she never shuts up about her to my siblings. She never really paid that much attention to her other grandchildren until Sage was born, and the main attention went to Sage. My other siblings have caught on that Sage is most likely her favorite, and some even call Sage my mom's ONLY grandchild. I'm worried that my mom in her stupidity and inability to keep her mouth shut is going to be causing unnecessary resentments towards my little girl. I have tried talking to her about it, but she gets hurt and offended anytime I say anything. What should I do??? And is there a procedure that I can have done on my mom to wire her mouth shut??

Does she notice the comments herself?

She has absolutely, positively NO self awareness, so no, she would never notice anything she says or anything she has done wrong.

Hmmm... Is it causing other family discord?? How old is your daughter?

I think we (meaning my siblings) all know my mom is out of her mind and will never accept responsibility for anything and will never admit wrongdoing. I was talking to my sister the other day, and she said that my mom wouldn't shut up about Sage. I told her that I wished our mom wouldn't do that, and she said that she loves Sage to death too and she would never be resentful towards her, but I'm concerned with my brothers. My sister has a 13 month old, and Sage is almost 22 months old.

Admittedly, Sage is exceptionally smart. She already knows are numbers and knows almost all the letters of the alphabet, is speaking in complete sentences, totally grasps emotions, etc. I'm concerned that my next kid could be a total idiot, and then what will my mom have to say about him/her...

I don't know if there is any way to get your mom to "get it". but sage is too young for you to talk to her about it as well.
I worry that my kids will be the kids that grandma doesn't love as much, but i decided that i didn't care.
Have your brothers said anything?? Do you live closer than they do. proximity might have something to do with it.. and i don't think the second one will be an idiot

We all live very close to each other (fortunately and unfortunately). We went to eat at my mom's house maybe a month ago. Some of my nieces were there waiting on my brother, my SIL, and my nephew to get back from my nephew getting his Patriarchal Blessing, and I was waiting on my sister, her husband and son to get back from the airport from their trip to Sweden. My mom started going on about how amazing Sage is in front of my nieces who are 8, 6, and 4. I called my mom out on it, and she just looked at me like I had run over her puppy. My oldest brother is always like, "Sage is the only grandchild." I don't know how to respond to it. I guess maybe I should figure out what my response should be since my mom has no control over her tongue. I love my daughter, and don't want to belittle her to make the others feel better, but then again, I don't want the resentments to build towards her because my mom is an unmanned fire hose.

Maybe you could talk to you siblings all together and come up with a strategy that everyone can employ to make a difference.
I think that the joke of sage is the only... is probably adding to the fire.
This is quite a sticky one. i'm going to think on it!

This is a sticky issue....

My kids are closest to my parents, and they are definitely the favorites, but my parents are very careful about talking about them or giving them too much attention whey my other nephews are around.
It became a problem when my daughter was born because she is the only granddaughter, and my SIL was being werid about her. So my mom was so careful she wouldn't even hold her or any of my kids when they were around.

My SIL has since had another baby so things have smoothed over, but I kindof know how you feel.

If your siblings know that your mom is "crazy" then I'm sure they understand but I like Jellybean's idea of you talking to them about it, just so they know that it is not coming from you.

I also don't want to call more attention to it. I think I'm a bit more sensitive about it. I don't know...I guess I should be happy that she feels a connection with my daughter. But then sometimes she has to try to convince herself, outloud to me, that it is better that Sage favors me over her. What is up with that?? That woman needs some help. I love my mom, but she has some problems.

Nothin' like Mom's with issues.

My parents were dead by the time I had babies (or, in my case BOUGHT babies), but there were some issues of favoritism in my family as well. I think that as the years went on, everyone just understood that it wasn't intentional and that we needed to get over our own insecurities that made us resentful. Ultimately, the family of kids that were the 'favorite' were the ones that were around more often than the others. They just had a more solid relationship.....

In hindsight, all of the kids have fond memories of their grandparents, if they are old enough to remember them at all. Every family has areas of insecurity where their kids are concerned. We all see weaknesses, strengths and parental issues in our own families AND the families of our siblings. However, all of that is really unnecesary if you just approach EVERYONE with love and recognize the strengths each child has and everything will come out in the wash.

If your brother/sister say anything derogatory about Sage being the "only grandchild" just laugh it off and assure him of your love for him - and his kids. Just my two cents.

All of you have provided really good advise. I definitely appreciate it. I guess the good thing, though there may be resentments, they all love Sage too because she is a very funny and charming little girl. I wish my dad was still around (he past away when I was 14) because he could lasso in that whack-a-do mom of mine!

Edye, Can I carry you around in my pocket? Because you have the most insightful and loving advice and I think I need one of you on my person at all times.

Awww, Amy, you're adorable. I guess I have just made enough mistakes in my life that I have to think a lot now! If you catch me at the wrong time my tongue can get the better of me.... and it can be.... FORKED! SHEESH! But, I try!